11.09.2016
Salam,
It has been months since my last post. Alhamdulillah we finally moved to the new house. A new place that we can call home. Mom decided to have a smaller room for her and abah, hence she gave the master bedroom for me and Eeqah to occupy. Mama said, she is tired of having big room so she gave up and leave it to us. Its big, I tell you. Really big. There was one time when Eeqah brought along her friends home; 8 of them and everyone was happy enough sleeping comfortably in the room. Alhamdulillah, for all the rizqun and nikmah.
Apart of the above, hmmm I have a lot of things to share; my working life, BFF wedding, but don't know where to begin.
Most importantly, my love journey through ups and down which never raise again. Not until the day I wrote this.
Just before Ramadhan, I began a journey of knowing someone - a guy. This guy (lets call him Mr. N) who I met in a halal online dating. He sent me a message, saying that he is interested in me by looking at my profile and family background. Oh by the way, he is a booklover just like me. So we share many things in common.
During Ramadhan, both of us took a little break just to give space and time to ourselves. Meaning, we take the opportunity of the holy month of Ramadhan to seek Allah's guidance as to where this relationship going to be.
The result was positive for both of us. During hari Raya, we even shared our family pictures, and started being open up to our family on our relationship. At this point of time, we haven't yet to decide when to meet up for the first time.
I was waiting for him, to ask me to go out. Of course, I was planning not to go alone at least with siblings accompany me around. He didn't give any sign, hence I was telling him that I'm ready if he wants to meet up and he was really happy for that decision. You know, I had never been to this stage, to that extent I felt terribly confused and not confident to face him. I did istikharah every day, I felt calm but he never came into a picture/ imagination. I trust my instinct thus finally we met. Ahmad and Khazieeqah were there as well. It was at a small café, Avenue K Saturday 6 Aug 2016.
We chatted about one hour before we separated. My feeling was full of serenity, peace and I managed to keep calm myself, even I felt I was too confident when talking to him. Too bad he didn't feel the same way I did.
There is saying "dari Mata tidak jatuh ke hati". Exactly it is.
I felt so confused. Especially after read his message thru Whatsapp.
"Alhamdulillah, saya sudah ada keputusannya. A hard and difficult one it is. Tapi setelah istikharah mohon pada Tuhan dan istiyarah dengan orang2 yang saya rapat dan percaya, saya yakin InshaAllah ia keputusan yang baik untuk kita berdoa. Moga-moga.
Jujurnya sebelum kita jumpa tempoh hari di KAvenue, my heart and mind was 80% serene and positive. Tapi setelah kita berjumpa, it become oppositely clea to me that we are not for each other...
You are a nice girl and I still and will always regard you as such. And what a fortunate man will your future husband be. Cuma saya bukanlah lelaki itu....What a blessed girls and boys your future childred wud be. Its just that im not gonna be their father...
I wish I could explain why but I believe it matters only to me. Incompatibility doesnt necesarily mean one person is better than the other. It may also mean one person is better without the other. I think the latter is our case.
Saya mohon maaf kalau, in any way, saya punahkan harapan awak (but of coz i dunno whats ur decision is..), sakitkan hati awak sepanjang perkenalan kita ni. Walaupun tujuan mula berkenalan dulu tidak terkabulkan, saya harus akui yang saya banyak belajar dari awak. For that, thank you and may Allah reward you.
Saya doakan pencarian awak akan berakhir dengan titik bahagia tidak lama lagi.
Assalamualaikum."
He did mentioned about 80% feeling serene & positive before we met, so i wonder what makes him change his mind? Does that remaining 20% really matter? Awak telah menenggelamkan 80% tersebut hanya untuk perkara 20% yang saya sendiri tidak tahu apakah ia.
Everyone was crazy and mad at him. Mama, Abah, Adik especially Ahmad and Khazieeqah. Me too. I felt humiliated in a way, but this is life and we are dealing with human. We are dealing with someone's heart. He tried to be honest, may be a bit rude, but he got want he want. So brave.
Me - Mungkin ini yang terbaik buat kami. I felt humiliated which only time can heal this. I lost my confidence, but worry not I will regain it back. Its just time. I need more time and space.
Its been a month & 5 days now. Im happier. I bought lots of books and e-book. This week alone i have completed 3 books. Seriously, when you delve into it, you are not lost, but you are struggling to bring back your self.
I think I am happier being single, at least for now. Praise be to Allah for all the test, obstacles. To Him we shall return.
Enough said.